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Author Topic: Does you family and friends know your yaoi interest or is it still a secret?  (Read 17901 times)

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Offline hungrycat21

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I have told my closest friends.

my family however is completely different.

Sameeee my parents would probably have a heart attack if they found out. But I think my brother knows since he's been dropping hints O.O

Offline Yakiki

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my friends, my mum and my older sis totally knows that i read yaoi!! XDD even tell them abt the sexy guys stories *Q*

Offline cryberry

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I have made a fujoshi out of my imouto. Hehe. My younger brother has also seen me reading yaoi. And the rest of my family... well, sometimes I read in the living room but I'm not quite sure if they could differentiate between the manga that I read with the yaoi ones.. hahaha.

Offline joongieren

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my family doesnt know.. its a total secret and i dont think I'll let them know..
for friends, almost all of my friends know that I'm into yaoi~
but yes of course most of my friends also into yaoi! lololol~

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My family doesn't know that I'm reading or watching yaoi (even my hentai stash ) and they'll never know it....ever  :wahaha:

yes! my sister knows it and were on the same boat savoring yaoi

Offline gingin

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My family doesn't know that I'm reading or watching yaoi (even my hentai stash ) and they'll never know it....ever  :wahaha:

Offline MiladyBalthazar

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I have told my closest friends.

my family however is completely different.

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i can now read yaoi in the living room and not mind other people passing by. not in public though.

but i spread the yaoi love whenever i can. hehe.

my imouto saw the file i had with the list of the manga titles that i was reading and she was amazed. i just smiled at her and said, 'i have a separate yaoi list'. i read so much yaoi manga that i need to list everything to keep track. although it's fine with me if i read titles twice or thrice. ^_^

Offline cika

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I still keep it from my family. I hide the yaoi manga files in a secret place so they cant find it easily.
Its been years since I got hooked, but still I have no guts to come out and say to my family " I like yaoi, if you got a problem take a hike"

Does anybody have this problem??
Me too. Maybe sometime I will tell them.. but I don't think so..

Offline Cintai

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My sister knows but I think its because she used to read it. My bf knows since he goes through my mangas. One night he was just like gimme a manga before bed I handed him In These Words by GuiltPleasure and as soon as he opened it he was like NOOOOO... no YAOI... but I kept saying no backsies... he kept complaining but read the whole volume.

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I don't have a deep interest in BL but I do read it on and off. Most of the series I read have BL undertones but are not considered as a BL series. I am aware of my sisters' interest in BL but we don't talk about it because they are uncomfortable disccusing BL with their youngest sister (me) whom they think is still an innocent. When I am old enough, I make it clear that BL topic can be discussed and we have no issues talking about it in the open. Sometimes, I like to give out random statements that carries double meaning. It's fun making people's head spin around. :D

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My girlfriend and my best friend know. It's sort of hard for me to tell people that I fangasm over two grown men falling in love or even getting a little intimate!......But I do roleplay with my Girlfriend, stories with so many characters and couplings (originally made no canons), I found my inner Otaku becoming unsatisfied after reading almost every Yaoi that catches my eyeballs and found roleplaying stories with other people a good way to feed the addiction! lol.

Mmm. Now I don't sound all that healthy :hot:


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My close friends and my younger brother know, but they think anything of it.

My close friends are willing to listen to my babbling about yaoi, usually with an amused look on their faces.

But nobody around me I like yaoi, so it's not possible to have real conversations on the genre.

However, I'd NEVER tell my dad.

I love my dad despite his flaws, but if he ever gets wind of this, my very Chinese, traditional, chauvinist & homophobic dad will start a war with me.

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My yaoi obsession is known only by my online friends and 1 real life friend who was the one who got me into it in the first place.

Other than that, I kind of keep my yaoi/ecchi/hentai reading a secret from my family and other regular people.

Offline kuroku

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My brother and sister knows. My mom doesn't know, she just thinks I just watch random anime or manga.

Only a few of my friends know that I'm a bl fan. I don't really voice it out much, which is why only my close friends knew.

Offline sonzaishinai

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My sister might know, but just not how much I am into it. The rest of my family suspects but its more of a dont ask dont tell thing.

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Hahaha, of course my family knows nothing about it!!! They would have a heart attack if they do, I'm sure.

My parents don't even like me reading manga, let alone yaoi... (actually, I don't think they know what yaoi is, anyway)

It's very lucky that my parents don't touch my computer, but sometimes my mother just walk into my room without knocking when I am reading yaoi, and gives me a real fright  :XD:

Lol that's exactly the same with me!

Offline cryberry

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Huwah!

I am a yaoi fan to the bones. lol.

Some of my friends know that I am a yaoi fangirl and I am also not abashed in telling my other friends that I love yaoi. 

My little sister knows about it since I was the one who encouraged her to watch yaoi anime. kekekeke!

My parents don't know.  I'm sure my father would have a nervy b. if he did. my mother... I'm not sure what her reaction would be but I'm sure she'll be okay with it. 

But it is still kind of embarrassing reading yaoi alongside another person especially in the smexy parts. lol.

Offline kotaru123

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my family doesn't know that i love yaoi, though there was one time i almost got caught by my sister, since i used to use her Pc to read yaoi and to make the story short, she thought it was my brother, he  doesn't even know what's yaoi. it was really hard on me not laugh xD

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All of my new best friends in class know - 2 of them are fangirls themselves  :fangirl: (found the fangirl smiley xD)
also 3 of my past classmates know (also yaoifangirls) <3  :megane:
and aaaaaaalllllllllll of my Japanese Class (including the teacher, who also adores boyxboy couples) xD  - BEST.TEACHER.EVER :3

but my parent, no - or at least i hope they don't  :ghostly: :escape: :omgnooo: :dark:

so for now, at home, i'll just have to be a closet fujoushi  :thiefness: :banzai:

but all in all, its all good - as Yoh from Shaman King would have put it "don't worry it'll all work out" (nando ka naruse?)   :happy:

Offline yuko7anakaori

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Nope....
We live in different house......
And it's like taboo in our family...

Offline Akihito

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My parents know nothing about the fact that I read yaoi. My two sisters know but they didn't take it serious, so I'm still fine now. There are about 6 friends in uni know my secret, since we're all study on social fields, they're kind of open-minded. They respect my hobby but rarely talk with me about it, yup I can't ask for more.

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They know by accident.  I got some doujins in the mail they opened up.   :XD:   It's not a big deal now.  My mom was just fixing bookshelf with my manga on it.

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My family knows that i love boy to boy pairing, but i somehow feel that they pretend not to understand the full extent of how i love it.  :wahaha:

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HAHAHA about this, nobody knows about it at all!
I wouldn't dare to tell anyone, it's so embarrassing!
I guess I need to keep it a secret for the rest of my lifee..........

Offline machisuki

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Everyone knows. It's out in the open  :maikka:

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My parents will probably never know I like yaoi...They just know I like some Japanese stuff but nothing more. I don't particularly try to hide this on the internet so everyone that I have enough contact with online will know about it, probably. I don't usually talk about it irl because I don't have any friends that like yaoi and anime's not a subject that I usually talk about with my friends either LOL But if it pops up in a conversation I won't try to hide it, probably, I just won't talk about it as enthusiastically as I do online because it would feel pretty stupid.

Offline xarox

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Well for me in the family only my big brother know that i read yaoi  :wahaha: (i was caught red handed one day while reading crimson spell  :aty:) but with my parents i still keep it as a secret from them  :imd:
I have a group with my japanese club friends that girls who like yaoi  :wohoho:... We like to talk and exchange information about good yaoi manga or anime. But with my school friends i still keep it as a secret. 


Offline Hito

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My family will never know I'm a fujoshi. NEVER. If the truth ever got out, I think my parents would kick me out of the house  :XD:
All of my classmates know though, 2 of them became my best friends because we have the same hobby  :fangirl: The guys in my class seem to be kinda gay, they often hang out in pairs and the class president once "raped" the other guys in a camping trip (like pushing them on the bed and taking off their clothes  :XD:)

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Everyone in my family knows I'm into yaoi but they don't say much about it even though they don't like it  :XD:

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Me and my little sis
Well I kind of influenced her on this yaoi things :megane:

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Lool, that's right, guys (some of them) love to see lesbian action *so we the girls are allowed to see yaoi too, without them protest too much*. But here where I live things live homosexual/lesbian couples is still a little new, so most people are still adapting. Very few are accepting it outright (mostly the younger generations, but that too is a bit personal so no one discuss it outdoors).
Most people here are old-fashioned and if they don’t mind same sex couples they don’t like to see it on the streets or are uncomfortable around those people.
I mean, I kind of understand their situation *its everything new to them and it must be hard to adapt*, but a guy and a girl can do anything – sexual related - on the streets now days (it’s not like they can do everything, but mostly of it they can *and do it*) so I don’t really think it’s fair to hold against people (who like other people of the same sex) the right to show their feelings to the world.
Besides, at least here there are some bars that are exclusive for homosexual and lesbians – a space where they can show their preferences without being harassed for being who they are – and I agree with it. At least the newest generations are more accepting even if there are exceptions *just my luck to be stuck with the lot who is against/uncomfortable of even talking about such things. Usually, when such topics are mentioned they hurry to change the discussions, as if they are afraid of getting involved, but they hold a grudge to who wants to discuss it. A bit cynical of them I guess – and I just so sick of those reactions*.

About yaoi I think I was caught a few years back, it was a adoptive son of my father, I don’t know him too well and he is a few years older than me, and of all the scenes he could have seen – since it was a very soft anime, with ONE kissing scene between guys and very few yaoi references – he just pick up the time where the guys were kissing.
He was like: “Are those 2 guys kissing?” I was younger and far more timid at the time – besides I wasn’t in my own home and it was a very awkward moment – and lied to his face. “No they are a guy and a girl”. He just hmmed and go back to do whatever he wanted, I was so embarrassed, I couldn’t believe I was caught like that, but I think he saw though my lie. I guess he didn’t want to say anything for my benefit *he might have thought I would die of embarrassment since I barely speak to him*

Thinking back at it I find it funny, but at the time I experience it in the skin it wasn’t funny at all, that’s why I always keep my computer password locked, not even my mom knows it, so no one can see what I have inside it.
But being busted like that is really the worst, we are not ready to see their reactions are we are forced (not exactly forced but you know what I mean) to give some kind of explanation.

Ja na
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Well, my brother knows. He caught me read handed reading it, haha  :blush:
He was like 'What are you reading?!' but never commented it after that.
I think my mom knows... I'm not entirely sure...
My friends know and they like yaoi too

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Any guy that would be worth it would understand that you have interests that may or may not jive with his (after all, if guys are allowed to like watching lesbians, you are allowed to watch gay men) and should support you on that.  Not that I'm saying to spring the yaoi on him on the first date by any means--you're right to hold back--but eventually it's something that you should be able to talk about.

I mean, any guy that I date eventually has to get used to the fact that not only do I like yaoi/gay porn but I will, TMI, have his ass sooner or later.

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My family doesn't know and I want to keep it that way... cause I won't really enjoy explain to them that I like yaoi *their kind of old fashioned*. Besides they already bother me because I like manga... if I told them I love yaoi (I would have to explain in detail) it would very bad for my health.

With my mom the reation would be the best I guess(she is pretty nice but its best not to overload her with that kind of info). She don't mind that I read manga, but if she knew how much time I spend on reading manga, then she would complain. Besides its already hard for her to understand my love for books… because she thinks its childish of me to read fantasy books. She doesn’t get that 80% of my books have sex scenes at one point.

Her boyfriend is another different story. I won’t tell him, ever. He’s homophobic, racist and mangaphobic (horrible isn't it?).
He always criticizes on my sex life – or lack of – or the fact that I read books/manga or my taste in music *he always finds something to mess with me*… I really can’t imagine telling him: I like to see/read guys f***ing each other.
He would be “WHAT?!”  :stfu: :p!ssedmode: and then he would try to correct me *probably by hitting me  :1000furyslap: and I’m not in the mood to be punching bag :nonono:*

I have a cousin living with me, but she’s younger than me (just 13 yr) so I won’t say anything to her yet *I’m letting her develop her own tastes without influencing her, I guess* but she even likes manga *the normal action supernatural one I can read in front of my family* so there might be hope for her yet, loool. And then there's my sister that only has a couple months *now she’s too young for anything except eat and sleep*. :maikka:

My closest friends know that I read manga and accept it (but they aren’t really into it like I am) and the my 2 BFF know that I like yaoi and they kind of understand it. But I feel kind of lonely since I can’t speak of it *in detail* with anyone except my online friends (and then to actually speak to them I have to be in the computer and connected to the net and they have to be online… so it isn’t as frequent as I would like).
It’s not like I hide it my tastes , if someone asks I tell them I read manga, but I won’t tell them I read yaoi unless I have some level of trust in them *people judge far too quickly for me to announce my personal tastes to the wind*. I'm far too peacefull to risk a fight over something that I can't or want to change :yawn:, in this case my love for yaoi.

I don't have a boyfriend, but if I had I would wait a bit before I tell him. I mean... what would be my changes of finding a hot guy that wanted to date me and support, if nothing else, my love for yaoi? Hmm... not likely  :sob: :dark:

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As most of the people that posted here I also keep a secret that I like reading yaoi.  My family is very old fashioned and every now and then they make some insensitive comments about gay people so there is no way I see myself telling them about what I read.  Luckily now I'm living by myself but just in case I keep my hard copies in a box in my closet just in case I get surprise visitors as it often happens :)

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I watch p0rn wth my dad, so I guess he wuldnt mind if I like yaoi.  :monk:

My cousins have guesses, I think.  :huh:

My friends? they all know.  :XD:

My boyfriend... eh, I am not ready to let him know.  :dark:

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my older sis and i like yaoi. my family know it.my older bro knew when i read yaoi manga and he tell my father. but my father just tease us :uwah:

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Hahaha, of course my family knows nothing about it!!! They would have a heart attack if they do, I'm sure.

My parents don't even like me reading manga, let alone yaoi... (actually, I don't think they know what yaoi is, anyway)

It's very lucky that my parents don't touch my computer, but sometimes my mother just walk into my room without knocking when I am reading yaoi, and gives me a real fright  :XD:

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no... they don't know... and i prefer that they don't.. my family is kinda oldfashioned. they won't understand.. i have one disck for my yaoi and shonen ai files.. i never lend it to anyone.. i usually stash it away where no one can find it.. besides what i do is basically is nobody else business right..  :XD:

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came out during the wedding of one of my cousin (well that i swing both ways anyway) and while i was at it, i also anounced my wish to transition to most of my familly, so that's done  :shy:

next morning in my bedroom i was like: ooooh jesus christ! what have i doooone!!!!! i swear i just wanted to stay in the room and die right there

but everything went just fine, every one just said to just be me... so yeah, they know  :XD:

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haha I almost got caught from my sister cause I accidently downloaded a R-18 hard yaoi.. but she thinks that I accidently downloaded (or she just.. sees it too dont believe that I watch it)
my parents *coughmydadcough* doesn't like the boy x boy or girl x girl so they don't know.. and i guess nobody knows because i'm like the "innocent" person everywhere XD (maybe it's because I dunno the R-18 terms.. XD)

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Re: Does you family and friends know your yaoi interest or is it still a secret?
« Reply #42 on: September 15, 2011, 09:02:41 AM »
No way, my family definitely doesn't know... some of my closer friends (happens to be guys...) know and well they're ok with it. lol  :blush:

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Re: Does you family and friends know your yaoi interest or is it still a secret?
« Reply #41 on: September 15, 2011, 05:08:14 AM »
of course they don't know, at least i hope soo!!!

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Re: Does you family and friends know your yaoi interest or is it still a secret?
« Reply #40 on: September 13, 2011, 05:18:41 PM »
My brother knows because I send the books I order at bookdepository at our home and then he send it to me. So basically he calls be a faggot lover  :mlfy: Then he goes and tells his wife that I read Yaoi  :blush: Oh but dont get me wrong, he even gives me money to buy more books when I ask him to  :yay:
My Mom see my books at my room. Though I am not sure she flip those books to see its contents. I am still uncertain if she know what those books are because she doesnt say a thing XD" the only thing she tells me is that i spend too much on buying manga :wbl:

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All my friends know. We are probably friends because we know and share the same interest on it, even if i'm usually the most far-fetched one.
They are usually into normal yaoi and I just stump over ANY kind of Slash material (currently into oyaji or whatever that subgenre is called  :wahaha:).

My couples all know and have accepted it to different degrees. My (ex) fiance even went as far as agreeing to yaoi fanservice around, it was fun.

Although I've kinda insinuated it to my family, they seem to hate even the lightest parts of yaoi, so I've kept quiet :/ (altough my father somehow seems really open to it, due to art movies and such....lolwut?)

And my co-workers, YEAH, no.

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Still a secret... They can think me crazy for that...

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I can't say it's a secret, because don't hide it. MANY people know I love yaoi/shounen ai.
Some even tease me and make jokes of me, but I don't care.
I don't go around shouting "HEY PEOPLE, I LOVE TO SEE MEN F***ING!" or things like that, though...
I value my life, really. Or else I would be dead by now... And maintaining my image of a good girl always come in handy. :yay:
In my family, I'm sure my mom knows, I remember telling her something by the lines of
"Oh, x and y make such a good couple!" just to hear "But aren't they both MEN?" many times.
My father... He never pays attention to what I read, but knows I like gay things.  :okaeri:
About friends... The first thing a friend of mine must know is about my otome traits, and if they don't accept them, well, what to do?
They won't be able to bear with my kyaaaaa attacks and japanese vocabulary.  :wbl:
Only the closests/ones into anime/manga know of my fondness for yaoi.

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My family don't know but it's not that i keep it a secret, i just think that it is none of their business!

But i guess i'm pretty lucky after all that they respect my privacy, and if they did know they'd probably just think it was weird / funny and tease me about it...  :ba:

I don't tell my friends, because i don't know if they would think i was really strange, Ahmyrak you really are lucky have good friends you can tell things to!

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My family doesn't know...i don't what will happen to me if they know.  i think my sister will do this to me ->:damn:

I don't know if my close friends know but one of them is into yaoi/shounen-ai also  but is not hooked on it like me, I'm even into BARA.  :blush:

I think this one of the secrets I'll carry to my grave.